Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Is Sex Just Physical?

Is Sex Just Physical?
By Kelsey Wilkins

Does sex really play with your emotions? Everywhere you look, sex is being advertised. You see it on billboards, TV commercials, hear it on the radio and watch it in movies. These things make people very uncomfortable but they also make children think that sex isn’t an important thing and you should do it whenever you feel like it, but I have the opposite opinion. I personally don’t think you need to wait until marriage to have sex, but you also shouldn’t just sleep around. Sex is something that is special between two people whether it may be a man and a woman, man and a man or woman and a woman. When you have sex it makes you emotionally attached to a person and a lot of the time, if you don’t really care about the person, it causes drama; unnecessary drama. Oxytocin is a hormone in the brain; you may know it better as the love/hate hormone. “This hormone plays a role in bonding; when released in your brain during certain types of human contact, including sex. It is also the same hormone that is released in a mother when she is nurses her child” (PositScience). This hormone bonds one person to another. It is the reason why many people have trouble letting go of an ex, especially when it comes to women. Men are constantly complaining about clingy women after they break up, but due to scientific research, it’s not fully the women’s fault.  This hormone that was released made her emotionally and physically attached to anyone who she has had sexual relations with and letting go of that is really hard. This hormone is also a huge factor when it comes to jealousy. Personally, I am not the jealous type, I have always been very confortable with my relationships and there wasn’t much jealousy there, but I can understand that people would be jealous if they saw the person who they love and have had or are currently having sexual relations with, talking to another person.
I once read something online that said “There is a chemical in a girls brain which is only released three times in her life; when she has sex, gives birth and when she breast feeds her child. Men only release this chemical when they bond with their children. Even if you are lucky enough to stay friends with a girl after having sex, a girl will always have feelings for you, because of the chemical. So if you think sex is a game, remember that you can mentally mess up a girl for the rest of her life. Keep that in mind the next time you decide to ‘hit it and quit it.’” 


  • ·      To PositScience online forum, http://www.positscience.com/brain-resources/brain-facts-myths/brain-in-love.




Who needs and Education about Sex?

By Kelsey Wilkins

The most common question about sex education in schools is whether it should be taught or not. I have personally had sex education all three years of middle school in my health classes and in my freshmen year of highs school health class, and guess what? Those were always my favorite units! I’m not really sure why, it could be a combination of the different speakers we had, or that my teachers felt super uncomfortable while teaching it so it made it more funny, but I have just always enjoyed that unit! I have talked about this subject with a few of my friends and they look at me like I am crazy when I say it’s my favorite unit. I think it could be other people’s favorite too, if the schools taught it in an entertaining way. Our Freshmen Seminar class got to go to the health center and we played Sex Jeopardy and that was my favorite day in class because they presented us the information in a fun way that we would remember.

The problem with the curriculum in North Carolina is that it is based on a Abstinence-only curriculum, which means they don’t teach you about birth control or how to put on a condom, which could be pretty useful things if you don’t want to get someone pregnant or get pregnant yourself. “In 1995 Rep. Robin Hayes introduced a bill requiring that public schools in North Carolina teach an abstinence-only sex education curriculum.  Despite heated debates, both the house and the senate passed the bill” (Bach 2006). Ever since this bill was passed, schools in North Carolina have taught kids to wait till marriage, but obviously not everyone does and because they don’t have the proper education, people are getting pregnant and are having to make really hard decisions at a young age.  
What is so bad about teaching children safe sex? Is it because they feel that’s a parent’s job? Well most parents don’t teach their children these things because it is an awkward conversation to have. I’m sure most parents don’t want their children having sex at a young age and they are thinking that if they bring it up, it will spark an interest in them. But that isn’t the case. They already have interest in it; they watch it on TV all the time, they wonder about it but are to embarrassed to ask their parents and I think that’s where the schools should step in because if they make it mandatory, then they children don’t have to go through that awkward conversation with their parents.  By offering abstinence courses in school they aren’t preventing anything because people are going to do it regardless of what they learn in school.




  • ·      Rebecca Bach, "The State of Sex Education in North Carolina," Sociation Today (blog), November 1, 2006, http://www.ncsociology.org/sociationtoday/v41/bach.htm.





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